By Sarah Terzo
A woman who had three abortions describes saying goodbye to two of her preborn children. She says of her first aborted baby:
“I was young and much more centered on myself and my life circumstances than on the baby. I was not really in contact with this baby.”
Later on, she had two more abortions, 18 months apart. She says:
“I was able to go inside myself and have an intimate relationship with these two babies. I was older, wiser, and able to focus on the meaning of these two close experiences…
Actually, I felt I was talking to the same being both times. I felt gratitude because he/they accompanied me during difficult times. I never felt I was doing them harm.
Just before the abortion for each of them, I asked the lady who showed me the ultrasound screen to give me five minutes alone with the baby, before the intervention. I spoke to each of them in a fluid, soft manner, more like saying, “Thank you, see you later…”
With the second, I said, “I guess I didn’t really get it the first time. You had to come back for me to realize fully that I had to leave this man. And I promise you I will do it.”
It was so clear for me that these two children had not come to me saying, “Let me be born.”…
These babies helped me, and I acted on what they helped me with. I honored them. And they had a tremendous healing effect on the guilt and angst which I carried a long time during and after my first abortion. I realized that I had not understood the meaning of this first baby’s presence in my life. I was incapable of going inside myself and relating to that baby.
I was able to recognize the last two babies as beings who were my equals, partners in learning. The ultrasound screen conversations were a way of recognizing the relationship, expressing my gratitude.”
Claudette Nantel, “Conscious Abortion: Engaging the Fetus in a Compassionate Dialogue” Journal of Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Health 35 (2) Summer 2021, pp. 14 – 15
This post-abortive woman believes that her babies existed to teach her life lessons and that they weren’t meant to be born. In reality, she chose to violently kill them through dismemberment.
Editor’s note. This appeared at Clinic Quotes and is reposted with permission.