By Dave Andrusko
Editor’s note. This story from a year ago today is as timeless and timely as a story can be.
In our culture, equipped with a gazillion cell phone cameras and a multiplicity of recording devices, every once in a while when an unhinged pro-abortionist goes off on a pro-lifer, it’s get captured and makes its way onto the internet.
More than ever, such off-the-wall comments are common currency, now that pro-life Donald Trump is our President. The bitterness, animosity, anger felt the night Hillary Clinton lost, far from lessening, has grown even more unhinged.
The whole topic of over-the-top pro-abortion hysteria reminded me of an opinion piece that once appeared in an Alabama newspaper. It was a response to the actions of a pro-abort who kicked over a pro-life display and topped that off with a profanity laced diatribe.
What made J. Pepper Bryars’ argument particularly helpful is that he used that harangue, ju-jitsu like, to make the case that “Men have a right and a role in the abortion issue.”
We all know that being the good liberals that pro-abortion feminists are, they insist that the voices of men should be censored. (And why not? They are not big on diversity of opinion to begin with.)
And it’s not just that abortion is “a woman’s issue” (as we are told incessantly) and therefore men have no voice. It’s that we men have nothing to contribute to the conversation, other than perhaps to affirm that they will go along with whatever her decision is. We are, at best, potted plants.
Bryars’ opinion piece reminds us that many, if not nearly all men, who are a party to a crisis pregnancy, have bought this lie. Consequently they say (or imply) that whichever direction the woman is headed, they will follow, mindless and mute.
Which, of course, misses the crucial other reason the Abortion Establishment is so loath to allow men to utter a peep. Quite understandably, women in the midst of a crisis pregnancy interpret passivity as a sign of indifference or (worse) a signal that everyone would be “better off” if she eliminated the “problem.”
But if the man speaks up on behalf of his baby and the mother of their child, it can make all the difference in the world.
“The man has a huge influence in the woman’s decision to choose life,” Susan Baldwin, executive director of the Women’s Resource Center, which operates crisis pregnancy centers in Mobile and Saraland, told Bryars. “If he is 100-percent for the baby and offers to support their child, then we almost never see the woman choose abortion.”
Bryars asked her what if the father resorts to the “I’ll-support-her-decision whatever her decision is” line?
“If he says that he doesn’t care what she does, or it’s her decision and he doesn’t want to interfere, she takes that as quite a negative and then the chances are 50-percent,” Baldwin said. “If he wants nothing to do with her or ‘her’ baby…then the woman is extremely vulnerable.”
Bryars then brought up something I’m embarrassed to admit I’ve not written about nearly enough.
Let’s say the father wants to do the right thing, not the convenient thing.
What exactly should he say?
“Baldwin said that her counselors and medical staff have observed that men don’t know how to talk to women about pregnancy, birth, their needs as mothers and alternatives such as adoption,” Bryars writes. “Her center’s website shares a list of basic dos-and-don’ts men should know when facing an unplanned pregnancy.”
Kathy Hall is executive director of Choose Life of North Alabama, a crisis pregnancy center in Huntsville, Alabama. They run a program called “MENistry.”
Its target audience is men who are involved in an unplanned pregnancy. A dozen trained men serve as counselors and mentors “to show fathers how important they are in the decision-making process and how they can grow to become the strong men that their situation requires,” Bryars writes. “They also offer post-abortion healing to men who have had a child aborted in their past – an untold yet painful part of the overall abortion tragedy.”
While men are still largely on the outside looking in, an author of a book about men and abortion sees hope.
“Today, many fathers facing an unplanned pregnancy are still shrugging their shoulders,” Kirk Walden wrote. “But…at pregnancy help centers everywhere, dads are making a comeback.”