Husband says “She is rocking her daughter in heaven.”
By Dave Andrusko
Life Lynn DeKlyen died last Wednesday, mere weeks after her mother passed away at the same University of Michigan Hospital. The victim of a viciously aggressive brain cancer, Carrie DeKlyen chose not to undergo chemotherapy that might have prolonged her life in order to increase the chances her sixth child would survive.
Life Lynn, was born Sept. 6 at 24 weeks, weighing just 1 pound, 4 ounces.
Nick DeKleyn announced his little baby girl’s death last Thursday on Cure 4 Carrie, the couple’s Facebook page, according to Kim Kozlowski of The Detroit News
“It is with great sadness and a absolutely broken heart that I tell you Life Lynn passed away last night,” according to the post. “Carrie is now rocking her baby girl. I have no explanation of why this happened, but I do know Jesus loves us and someday we will know why. The grief we feel is almost unbearable, please be praying for our family.”
In April Mrs. DeKlyen, who was married to Nick for 17 years, underwent brain surgery in an attempt to stave off for the rapidly growing brain cancer. When the couple subsequently discovered the glioblastoma multiforme had returned, they also learned Mrs. DeKlyen was pregnant with their sixth child.
Mrs. DeKlyen, 37, chose to forgo clinical trials and chemotherapy to treat brain cancer. “That’s what she wanted,” Mr. DeKlyen told the Washington Post’s Kristine Phillip. “We love the Lord. We’re pro-life. We believe that God gave us this baby”
In July Mrs. DeKlyen suffered a massive stroke from which she never regained consciousness. She was 19 weeks pregnant at the time.
For several weeks she received her nourishment through a feeding tube and was on a breathing tube. By the time Carrie was 22 weeks pregnant, according to Phillips
her baby wasn’t growing fast enough, weighing only 378 grams, or eight-tenths of pound. To survive birth, the baby had to be at least 500 grams, just a little more than a pound, Nick said.
Another two weeks went by. Good news came: The baby weighed 625 grams. The bad news was the baby was not moving.
Nick said he was given two options. He could do nothing and hope the baby starts moving and continues growing. But doing nothing meant his child could die within an hour. Or he could authorize a Caesarean section. Nick chose the latter.
The DeKlyens are staunch evangelical Christians, which, of course, doesn’t mean Mr. DeKlyen pretends he has the answer to the unanswerable.
He said he was still trying to make sense of why God didn’t intervene and save his wife and infant daughter, who died within two weeks of each other.
“The Bible says that it rains on the just and the unjust,” DeKlyen said. “There are just things you can’t explain. I wish I had the answer as to why my wife died and my daughter died. “
But he added
“Regardless of what happened, I still chose to follow God and do it his way. When I get to heaven one day, I will ask why. I know he has a reason for everything.”
Kozlowski began her story with a lovely account of how when Mrs. DeKlyen first learned she was pregnant with her sixth child, she told her husband she had a dream that she was rocking a baby girl. She never got that chance.
But her husband remembered that dream when their precious sixth child died last Wednesday at 2 weeks old:
“Now the dream she told me is now making sense,” said DeKlyen, 39. “I never thought it would be heaven, but I know that is what she is doing. She is rocking her daughter in heaven.”