Men and Abortion: the Topic that Won’t Go Away

By Dave Andrusko

Editor’s note. Father’s Day is less than two weeks away. We’ve been running some new, some older stories about one of the most neglected subject areas in the entire abortion debate: a father’s role and responsibility. The following appeared a while ago.

DadandBaby12Except to the most ideologically-driven pro-abortionist, it shouldn’t be at all surprising that abortion, an act which takes the life of one individual and forever alters the lives of many others, would be endlessly complicated. As the repressed hurt surfaces, the real question is which aspect will command attention next.

Some surface briefly, then “disappear,” only to reappear. A classic example is the capacity of the unborn child to experience pain at 20 weeks. The legislative response–is the Pain-Capable Unborn Child Protection Act. [Ed. Note. 14 states have now passed this law.]

Another is inevitably “Men and Abortion.” How could it be otherwise? A friend once emailed me a link to story in a St. Louis weekly which, while hard on pro-life outreach to men, included that phase so it could also discuss “pro-choice” outreach to men.

In an overly cutesy way, the writer says, “Men have long taken the back seat in the national conversation about abortion, but now, even if they’re not driving it, they’ve at least graduated to passenger-seat status.” That’s a stretch. In fact men are often closer to the trunk. But of late they have at least been allowed into the car.

Pro-abortionists, of course, see outreach such as Project Joseph as little more than recruitment tools for the Pro-Life Movement. They see their job as reassuring the men that the decision to end the child’s existence was best for all–especially men.

Pro-lifers see abortion in a fundamentally different way. They understand that both men and women have layers of unresolved quilt and remorse that it can’t just be bottled up forever. There is a reason that research continues to show an aftermath of post-abortion physical and emotional complications.

An unintentionally revealing comment came early in the piece (“Abortion Activists have a new target: men”): “Where pro-choicers see 50 million [now more than 58 million] men relieved of the burden of caring for a child they hadn’t planned for, pro-lifers see the 50 million Father’s Day cards those children will never send.”

“Relieved of the burden”: what an immensely revealing observation. The whole point of so many post-abortion stories told by men is that they would give anything to have the “burden” of caring for the child they once abandoned.

We are a little less than two weeks away from Father’s Day. If you have a chance, read the most poignant, searingly painful post-abortion father’s story ever written: “Remembering Thomas: Responsibility, Guilt and a Child Who Never Was,” by Phil McCombs, which appeared in the Washington Post in 1995.

It can be found at priestsforlife.org.