By Bonnie Finnerty
Editor’s note. November is National Adoption Month. All this month we have posted new and reposted old stories. Hope you’ve been enjoying them.
My body is not their property.
So said Madi, a 21-year-old college senior who was 13 weeks pregnant. Featured in an ABC News story, Madi flew to Mississippi’s lone abortion facility, with her mother’s blessing it should be noted, to get the abortion she could no longer get in Texas. “I had to keep in mind that I was doing this for me,” Madi said.
At 13 weeks, Madi was in her second trimester, and her child was about 3 inches long, the size of a peach. His heart was beating, his gender distinguishable, and his vocal cords newly formed. He could respond to light touch, turning his mouth toward it, an indication of the rooting reflex used when nursing. Madi’s baby could even hiccup. His little body was physically joined to but genetically separate from his mother.
His body was not her property.
But no one seems to tell Madi this fact. Rather the entire ABC News segment focuses on aborting her child as THE only choice. Vitally important information on any other option was conspicuous by its absence. For example…
Missing is any evidence of an ultrasound. Perhaps that was because seeing her baby would have changed Madi’s mind as it does to the majority of women considering abortion.
Missing is information about the hundreds of easily accessible pregnancy resource centers equipped to help Madi materially and emotionally through her pregnancy and long after.
Missing is the father of the baby, with whom she said she had been in a committed relationship. Co-creator of this new life, he is denied any role as to whether his child lives or dies.
Missing is any mention whatsoever of the other A-word: adoption, and the fact that for every baby placed for adoption there are 36 couples waiting to grow their family.
Missing are specifics of how the “procedure” is done, whether the baby feels pain, and where his little body ends up.
And missing is just one person to say, “Yes, you can do this and I will help you.” Madi’s mother is willing to exterminate her own grandchild so that her daughter can get back to her “typical college life.”
With abortion dominating headlines, we can expect more liberal media stories sympathetic to the abortion industry. Indeed, poor Madi is upheld as a new Norma McCorvey of sorts, the original “Jane Roe” who was used by the abortion lobby and then tossed aside. Norma actually never got an
abortion though, and her daughter lives today.
Madi’s child does not.
Among the many things Madi is never told in this thinly veiled propaganda piece is that she doesn’t have to choose between her child and her future. That she should be empowered and supported to return to school and chase her dreams. That she can take responsibility for her child to whom she is already a mother. That she engaged, by her own admission, in baby-making behavior that indeed made a baby.
Also unspoken are the long-term consequences of abortion. While Madi gushes over the kindness of abortion staff, one must wonder where any of them will be when a more mature Madi, perhaps trying to conceive one day or watching her next child’s ultrasound, awakens to the reality of the precious life she sacrificed.
Where will the abortion advocates be when the anxiety, addiction, depression, relationship issues, and suicidal thoughts that plague many post-abortive women come to haunt Madi? They will be also conspicuous by their absence.
No one reminds her of a fundamental truth [that pregnancy is temporary but abortion forever. And forever is a long time to feel the ache of grief and guilt over a child needlessly killed.
Equipped with truth about the baby within her and supported by family and community, Madi might have taken another road. All she needed was someone to tell her the plain truth that yes, her body is not their property, and it never was…even when she was 13 weeks old in her own mother’s womb.