By Sarah Terzo
A woman named Liz told her story:
I had been married to my ex-husband for only a few months when I discovered I was pregnant, even though I was on the pill. We hadn’t planned on having any children so soon, if at all… We weren’t well-off financially, and my income was our primary income.
My ex was against me having the baby, so, much so that he enlisted his mother’s “help” to convince me to get an abortion. At one point his mother offered me $1000 to do it, but I couldn’t entertain the idea. Fortunately, my parents backed me up, my mother especially. I knew it would be wrong in God’s eyes and in my own heart to destroy my own child. My pregnancy went well despite my ex-husband’s whining about it until the last eight weeks.
I got extremely ill (preeclampsia) and had to be on bed rest. My son was born 11 days early, healthy and perfect even though I had almost died while in labor, and he had to be delivered through an emergency C-section. I went into seizures later that evening after the birth, and had to be resuscitated three times that night… As my ex was nowhere to be found, my dad had to sign papers claiming responsibility for me. Granting temporary custody of my son if I did not live through the night…
Sometimes the decision for life is a hard one. Even though my ex made life difficult throughout my pregnancy, and he was even worse once my son was born. This is the reason why I divorced him. I wouldn’t have traded my son’s life for “pleasing” my ex and his mother. I’m especially grateful to God for the gift of my son and his timing because I have medical problems, due to high blood pressure, arthritis and a known tendency for preeclampsia that make pregnancy difficult or impossible, and the risks increase with age. On medical advice, I chose permanent sterilization and cannot have any more children.
If I hadn’t had my son when I did, I doubt if I would have been able to have any children at all…
A man who despises and would willingly kill his own child is not worthy to be your husband!…
My son is 11 now… Don’t let “well-meaning” so-called friends or relatives try to make you do something you know is wrong.”
Martha Jensen. Abortion: Information and One’s Own Journey (2020)