Postabortion woman saddened by birth of boy: mourning her prior abortion, thinking “I had given up my girl”

By Sarah Terzo

A new mother felt sad when her baby turned out to be a boy and not a girl, and found herself breaking down and sobbing in the hospital. She was really mourning the baby she aborted before, which she thought would have been the girl she wanted.

“Somewhere in my young head, I felt like I was being punished for ending the life of my first child. That the child I gave back to God was my girl; that I had given up my girl. I struggled for some time with that idea; that I needed to be punished for what I had done. My husband was the only one who knew what was going on with me; I had to work through these feelings on my own. No one talked to me before the abortion about the fact there would be a chance I would grieve the life of that child or that I would struggle with my roll [sic] in that abortion.…. Even though I found my way though this wave of grief, this was not the end of my grieving for my first child.”

“Babies and the post abortion experience,” from “Secrets in the Shadows,”  November 3, 2010.

Editor’s note. This appeared at Clinic Quotes and is reposted with permission.