Post-Abortion Woman: “You feel a huge loss”

By Sarah Terzo

A woman who had an abortion describes how her husband pressured her into it:

“We had been married for four years and had talked about kids and their names. The time seemed right. I got very excited when I found out I was pregnant. But my joy was colored by a remark my husband had made earlier. When my period was one week late he said, “So when are you getting your period?” I said, “What if I don’t?” He said very matter-of-factly, “Well, you’ll just have an abortion.”…

He made it clear he was not ready for the responsibility of having a child. … I was so scared to have a baby without any support that fear overwhelmed any rational decision I could have made….

Afterward I felt empty inside. It was like a dull ache. I just wanted to embrace something. I cried for days. Every time I got my period I would think, “There’s another chance gone by.”

A few months later my husband and i separated. I think the divorce would have happened anyway; the abortion only hurried it along…

Abortion is a very personal choice, but it’s not an easy one. It is not a form of birth control. You don’t just go in and—poof—it’s gone. You feel a huge loss. And you mourn.”

Marilyn Balamaci, et. al. “Eight Other Women’s Stories” [https://people.com/archive/eight-other-womens-stories-vol-24-no-6].  People Magazine August 5, 1985.

Editor’s note. This appeared at Clinic Quotes and is reposted with permission.