Father of aborted baby: Nothing can describe the profound sense of powerlessness that comes with watching someone terminate a life that you helped create”

By Sarah Terzo

From a man whose girlfriend had an abortion:

Jenny rang me as soon as she had a chance to take the test. “I think I’m pregnant,” she said. Those words hit me like a sledgehammer. Her next words left me trembling: “I’ve decided to have an abortion”.

I offered to come over so that we could talk things through. “There’s nothing more to say,” she said icily. I tried to reply but she cut me off. “I don’t want this baby and it’s my choice to make. Do you understand me?” …

I assured her that I would be there for her and that we could find a way to give our child a meaningful life.….

I had quickly come to terms with the prospect of parenthood, before fighting in vain to save the life I helped create. Nothing can describe the profound sense of powerlessness that comes with watching someone terminate a life that you helped create. I felt alone in a sea of pain, desperate to keep afloat.

Despite my best efforts, Jenny went through with the abortion. The pregnancy was over and, weeks later, so was our relationship. …

Wounds do heal over time – even deep ones – but scars remain. Eight years later, I find myself incredibly blessed with a beautiful, bright and loving wife, a 19-month-old son and a daughter due in January. At times, I can’t help but look into my son’s deep grey-blue eyes and wonder what his older brother or sister might have been like.

Sadly, my story is not unique; other men have experienced the same anguish.”

From Tony Perry, “I wish I could have prevented my girlfriend’s abortion,” The Telegraph, September 12, 2014.

Editor’s note. This appeared at Clinic Quotes and is reposted with permission.