Men and Abortion: After all these years how little we know

By Dave Andrusko

Editor’s note. This coming Sunday is Father’s Day. As is our tradition, the week before we run stories about one of the most neglected subject areas in the entire abortion debate: a father’s role and responsibility in the death of his child.

Excluding only the most ideologically-driven pro-abortionist, it shouldn’t be at all surprising that abortion, an act which takes the life of one individual and forever alters the lives of many others, would be endlessly complicated. The real question is which aspect will command attention next.

Some surface briefly, then “disappear,” only to reappear. A classic example is the capacity of the unborn child to experience pain at 20 weeks. President Reagan first broached the topic in January 1984!

Another is inevitably “Men and Abortion.” How could it be otherwise? A friend once emailed me a link to story in a St. Louis weekly which, while hard on pro-life outreach to men, included that phase so it could also discuss “pro-choice” outreach to men.

The writer says, in an overly cutesy way, “Men have long taken the back seat in the national conversation about abortion, but now, even if they’re not driving it, they’ve at least graduated to passenger-seat status.” That’s a stretch. In fact men are often closer to the trunk. But, of late, they are at least allowed to put their hand on the door knob.

Pro-abortionists, of course, see outreach such as Project Joseph as little more than recruitment tools for the Pro-Life Movement. They see their job as reassuring the men that even if they are delusional enough to care, the decision to end the child’s existence was best for all–especially them.

By contrast pro-lifers see abortion in a fundamentally different way. They understand that both men and women have layers of unresolved quilt and remorse that it can’t just be bottled up. That is why pro-abortionists must scoff at the research which continues to show an aftermath of post-abortion physical and emotional complications.

An unintentionally revealing comment came early in the piece (“Abortion Activists have a new target: men”):

“Where pro-choicers see 50 million [now more than 60 million] men relieved of the burden of caring for a child they hadn’t planned for, pro-lifers see the 50 million Father’s Day cards those children will never send.”

“Relieved of the burden”: what an immensely revealing observation. The whole point of so many post-abortion stories told by men is that they would give anything to have the privilege of caring for the child they once abandoned.

Father’s Day is Sunday. Just as we hurt for and reach to post-aborted women, don’t forget there are countless men living with unresolved guilt and self-hatred for their failure.