“You Are More”–A Message To Abortion Survivors

By Melissa Ohden

Editor’s note. This appears on Melissa’s blog. As most of you know, she survived a saline abortion in 1977. Melissa has spoken all over the world, including at many National Right to Life Conventions.

As many of you may have noticed, I’ve been working at revamping The Abortion Survivors Network, and I’m also working away at a healing curriculum/self-study that will be released soon. I know it’s been a long time coming, but there’s been a lot of irons in the fire for me, and although we are blessed with an abundance of abortion healing curriculums, no one knows survivors like fellow survivors. Our mentoring services and online support group still exist, but I’m excited about how this curriculum can support survivors in their healing journey.

I wanted to share an excerpt with you, which also gives you some insight into our new logo and slogan: The Abortion Survivors Network: More Than A Choice.

You Are More.

As a fellow abortion survivor, there’s so much I want you to know. This healing workbook is my opportunity to share many of those things with you as you walk out your journey. If I could sum it up in three short words, though, here’s what I’d like you to know more than anything else:

You are more.

You are more than your mother’s decision to abort you.

You are more than the coercion and force that your father, your parents’ family members, medical professionals, or even clergy exerted on her to have the abortion.

You are more than the type of procedure that you endured and survived.

You are more than the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual difficulties you’ve faced in your life.

You are more than the prognosis that the doctors had regarding your future.

You are more than what family members who are burdened by life and the decisions they made about yours, have to say about you.

You are more than a choice. You are more than a “woman’s right.”

You are more than another statistic.

You are YOU, survivor and all.

The reality is, though, that although you are so much more than the circumstances surrounding your birth, surviving an abortion impacts every facet of your life. It shapes who you are, how you see yourself, how you view others and the world, and how you live your life.

Everyone’s healing process is different, just as everyone’s survival is. But there are many common experiences, thoughts and feelings, struggles and questions. It’s my hope that this workbook supports you in your journey to processing your experiences, finding further healing and strength, and embracing you, survivor and all.