Allowing women who are suffering from their abortion to share what happened and why

By Dave Andrusko

alonecrowdA friend forwarded me an essay that appeared in The Federalist today, headlined, “What happens when people share their abortion stories.”

The sub-head captures so much:

The ability to tell one’s story is an indispensable part of emotional health. That includes men and women who have suffered from abortion, who shouldn’t be silenced.

The author, Cullen Herout, is part of Rachel’s Vineyard, a prominent pro-life, post-abortion ministry.

His kind, in-depth, empathetic remarks reminded me, yet again, of the difference between “telling your abortion story”–the mantra of the Abortion Industry and its various and sundry front men–and helping women and men “to understand the various influences at play during the time of their pregnancy and abortion [which] can help them to make sense of the choice they made.”

Herout immediately adds, “Again, the purpose isn’t to minimize the action chosen, but rather to help them understand the choice and begin the process of healing.” As Herout observes

Post-abortive men and women are often made to feel as though they are harboring some sort of pathology due to post-abortive grief and regret. Thoughts such as “Maybe there is something wrong with me if I’m still suffering” can permeate a person’s thoughts. Even further still, the political rhetoric that says abortion is a personal decision can also silence those men and women who are suffering alone.

Often unspoken and buried

The abortion experience has frequently been cast away to the far corners of their minds and ignored, even suppressed for long periods of time. It’s one they don’t care or are afraid to acknowledge. The opportunity to tell their stories can, in many cases, help them accept that part of themselves and move toward integration.

Pro-abortionists aren’t there to help women and men heal. How could that be an objective, let alone THE objective, when their whole point is to serve a larger propaganda agenda: to convince the world how common, how routine, how utterly commonplace abortion is.

To which they add, if abortion is so unexceptional, so pedestrian, women should be (A) affirmed in their decision and (B) unlikely to ever experience emotional aftershocks.

If you ever have occasion to carefully read stories or profiles in which a fairly large number of women talk about their abortion experience, the results are far different than the views of the pro-abortionist who has assembled them.

For example, how often do we learn the woman was guided, if not shoved, into the abortion. How frequently her initial instinct to abort waxed and wane. How common it was to panic when her feet were placed in the stirrups and wonder, “What am I doing?” How customary, having experienced a chemical abortion, to conclude it was the most incredible pain she’d ever experienced in her entire life.

In other words, the pro-abortion moral of the story–“abortion is not big deal”–is belied over and over and over again.

When you have a few minutes, please read “What happens when people share their abortion stories.”

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