Another attempt to “normalize” abortion

By Dave Andrusko

Udonis Haslem and Faith Rein

Udonis Haslem and Faith Rein

On the way back to Virginia from a trip in Minnesota we stopped at my sister in law’s who had kindly purchased a copy of the New York Times and of the weekend edition of the Wall Street Journal. On Wednesday I’ll have a few words of praise for a review of a book in the Journal that (quite unintentionally) eviscerates the “Population Bomb” hysteria of the 1960s which still lingers in some quarters.

What did I see in the New York Times? A story about the marriage of Miami Heat forward Udonis Haslem to Faith Rein, who at one time was herself a track athlete. You might ask, so what does that have to do with our single-issue focus?

Well if you believe the rabidly pro-abortion site, the story represents a “normalization” of abortion because the Times article (for its own reasons) talks about the abortion Ms. Rein had.

For the Times to openly discuss the abortion, jezebel tells us

“shows that it is (or should be, depending on your state legislature and the current state of Planned Parenthood funding) a decision, to be considered or ignored or made or nearly made by people based on their own priorities and not some imaginary standard of adulthood imposed by a pious, anti-choice finger-wagger.”

Let’s see.

The abortion story is contained in these three paragraphs (which follows them becoming a couple in May 2001) as part of the “challenges” they had faced.

“Their first challenge took place the following spring when she became pregnant. It was her junior and his senior year, and he had begun training for the N.B.A. draft. Despite the pregnancy, she was busy with track meets and helping him complete homework. The timing was bad.

“’I am not a huge fan of abortion, but we both had sports careers, plus we could not financially handle a baby,’ said Mr. Haslem, noting how he struggled with supporting Kedonis, the son he had in high school, who is now 14 and who lives with his mother.

“’Udonis appreciated that I was willing to have an abortion,” Ms. Rein said. ‘I found him caring, supportive, nurturing and all over me to be sure I was O.K. I saw another side of him during that difficult time and fell deeply in love. He had a big heart and was the whole package.’”

Their relationship continued and after being apart on and off eventually they were together and had two children. When they married August 24, their now six-year-old son Josiah, “breathed a long sigh of relief,” according to the Times. “’Finally,’ he said, ‘we all have the same last name!’”

Three quick points.

First, stories like this can further the agenda of the abortion crowd. The more abortion is talked about (especially in high-profile instances like this), the more is can signal that abortion is just “one of those things.” Jezebel contends that the story is “a signal that a vast majority of Times readers (at the very least) recognize that having an abortion is a completely legitimate option.”

That doesn’t follow at all, even for the readers of the New York Times. It more likely is just another foray in the Times’ never-ending campaign to celebrate abortion. Some—many—readers may agree, but many others, I suspect, felt a sense of (at least) unease.

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Second, while their financial condition was much better when Ms. Hein became pregnant a second time, Mr. Haslem was probably also more mature. There is no explanation why they did not abort Josiah or later Elijah. One also wonders what their living children will feel when they learn their older sibling was killed in an abortion.

Third, pro-lifers do not oppose abortion so they can wag fingers. We oppose taking the lives of unborn children because it is unjust, unmerciful, irresponsible, and ruptures the most important bond in human culture. At some level (“I am not a huge fan of abortion”) Mr. Haslem grasps that. And, the “caring, supportive, nurturing” response would have been for Mr. Haslem to be fully behind a decision for life, not death.

Jezebel says the story represents “Progress!” because the “Wedding Announcement openly discusses abortion.” To quote the immortal John Wayne, “Not hardly.”

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